I am not a patient person by nature. In high school I was the kid that would hang around after a test waiting for the teacher to mark it. Waiting till the next day to find out how well I did was unbearable for me. Not much has changed. Yet at this particular stage of the adoption, when everything is out of my control, I feel calm. I don't understand it, I can't explain it, I don't expect it to last. But right now, in the moment I am at peace.
My mind knows that in time everything will come together and we will at last have a child in our home. My body feels impatient, when I check my email for updates my heart races with anticipation. When I find no new news then I feel sad. But I have yet to be upset or frustrated. I'm sure in time I will be.
A few weeks ago, when our dossier was taking longer to put together than I wanted I was getting very agitated. I mentally put myself in a time out. I told myself that I needed to calm down, we have a long road in front of us and being agitated is not going to make the end any nearer.
For now I am trying to focus on one task at a time. Currently our file is in Ottawa awaiting approval. That's my step for now. Please don't get me wrong, as I metioned I am not a patient person. I have the next 5 steps aready planned (Who am I kidding, I'm already crying over our child leaving home to go to university!) But for now my job is to focus on the step that we're on.
I was reading someone elses blog today and it made me think of this prayer. I have seen it reworded and used for many things over the years. It has been used in numerous songs, movies, and books. I often think of it when I'm stressed out or at the end of my rope. I decided to try to find the original prayer and it's origin.
Take a breath. I hope that you are able to read it and find some peace it the words.
God, give us grace to accept with serenity the things that cannot be changed, courage to change the things that should be changed, and the wisdom to distinguish the one from the other.
Ahhh, feel better? I do. Wikipedia tells me that this prayer was originally written by theologian Reinhold Niebuhr for use in a sermon in the 1930s or early 1940s.